Now at times you think this friend is great! Who would you be without this friend? There is just one little thing though about this friend that drives you crazy. He or she just lives to criticize you.
They remind you of every embarrassing thing you have ever done, every mistake that you have ever made. They can make you feel guilty, jealous, and angry like no one else on the planet can.
They tell you that you will never be more than you are now. That you should just be grateful for what you have because what makes you think that you are so special and entitled to anything more?
They tell you to get real. That you will never get that dream girl or guy, they are way out of your league. They say you will never get that promotion because you are just not smart enough.
On and on they go everyday telling you what you cannot be, have or do.
Now you might be thinking, who on Earth would want a friend like that?
The answer is you if you are still letting that pesky thing called Ego run your life. Read the above statements again and see if that “friend” sounds familiar to you.
We originally created the Ego to help us stay focused on our own unique experiences while on Earth. Because we are in fact All One, we needed a sort of tuner to help keep us focused on our own station and have a way to “tune out” all the other traffic out there. Otherwise we would just be hearing all the other gibberish from all the other parts of ourselves (the millions of other people on our planet right now).
The problem however began when we started giving that Ego too much power and mistakenly started to believe that the tuner was in fact our “identity”. When we started to believe everything it told us was truth.
Our next mistake was in believing that everything that has happened up in our lives until today has now defined who we are going to be tomorrow. Another trick of that pesky Ego. It has now established our identity and it doesn’t want to give it up easily. It likes itself just where it is. It feels safe and easy…even if you are miserable.
So now when you say “I’m going to lose weight and get in shape over the next few months“ the Ego says “Uh. Uh, Uhhhh. No we are not. I am comfortable here. I don’t like change. We have now established ourselves as a “slightly overweight person” and I don’t feel comfortable changing that label.” And then it goes into a whole bunch
of reasons why you won’t be able to do it. It will tell you things like “You’ve tried it a million times before and it’s never worked so why even bother.” Or “you’re never going to find time to go to the gym a couple of times a week.” or “Eating food that is good for you is boring” or any of the one million things it will try to come up with. I am sure you can fill in any blanks from your own pesky little voice.
So now…what do you do?
You need to shake that little sucker up. Throw it off its tracks. Shock the heck out of it!
How do you do this?
You focus on the moment of NOW!
You see, the Ego can only survive on the past. All of the criticism, guilt, negative talk and thoughts all stem from things that it has made connections with from your past.
If you choose to live in this NOW moment there is nothing for it to feed off of anymore
You can be a new person as of this MOMENT. It does not matter a lick what happened in your childhood, or past relationships. It doesn’t matter how many mistakes you have made or how many failures you have had. That is in the Past. It’s over. There is nothing that can be done about any of that.
All that matters is right NOW. This moment. Right NOW you can be anything you want to be! And there is no one to tell you differently.
So what is the exercise?
Grab a pad or open a fresh page on your word processor.
Imagine that you just arrived on this Earth for the first time this morning.
You have absolutely no preconceived notions about anything.
Everything around you is fresh and new. You are amazed at all the unbelievable experiences you can have while you here on this planet. It is like the biggest playground you have ever seen!
Write down all your impressions. Even the smallest thing. Imagine you were writing someone “back home” and explaining all of the wonderful things down here on this planet there are to experience.
Tell them about the food! You discover there are at least 25 different places you can eat with hundreds of food choices within blocks of you. Tell them about the people! There are so many you can meet, have fun with, laugh with, share things with. Tell them about all the millions of ways people have to make money while they are here. Explain how you can’t imagine anyone not being able to earn a fantastic living while here doing something they love because there are just so many options!
How about where you live? Explain how cool your house and apartment are. Explain about cell phones, televisions, computers, etc.
For the next few days keep acting like everything you see around you is brand new Everything is possible for you because “you have never tried them before”.
And if that pesky ego tries to thwart your fun be sure to say to it “I don’t know who you are or where you get your pessimistic ideas little fellow but I know that I am entitled to experience every good thing down here just be being here. So I think you better move on and find someone to tell your silly fantasies to.
You will be amazed at how differently you will see the world and all of your possibilities when you look at them with fresh eyes.