June 30, 2008

Law of Attraction - Create a Vision Board To Bring More Money Into Your Life

"O.K. I have asked Universe again and again for something I want. I have thought about it and envisioned it and it is no closer to showing up than the first day I asked."

Does this sound familiar to you? This is one of the most frequent complaints I hear from people who have learned, read and studied about the Law of Attraction but are having problems making it work for them personally.

It is usually pretty easy when I delve a little deeper into their situation to figure out what the problem is.

For instance, say you declare that you want to create a lot of money. You can see it in your minds eye, you may even be able to "feel" how it feels to have it (very important, by the way), and you do this for about an average of 10-20 seconds a day.

And you have done it exactly right. That is all that is required for the Universe to kick into action and start working its magic to bring it to you. However, a week later you find that you are no better off than you were before - sometimes you find your situation may even be worse.

So what is the problem? The problem is not in how or what you asked for. The Universe is totally neutral. It does not care what it delivers or to whom it brings it.

The problem lies in what you think about after you have asked for the money. While those 10 to 20 seconds are very important every day, what are you thinking about the other 14 to 16 hours you are awake?

What are you thinking if a creditor calls, when you open your mail and see the bills, when your kids want something extravagant? Do you feel a knot in your stomach. Do you say things like, "there is no way I can pay this, or that bill is outrageous, or we absolutely cannot afford that?"

You see, in having these thoughts the rest of the day Universe will again kick in to do its job. But now it will reverse its original direction of that mornings objective and now focus on the messages it is currently being given.

So what is the answer? Quite simply, is to keep your focus more often on what you do want during the day as opposed to what you do not want. You see, whichever thought gets more of the attention - wins! It is the law!

So then you may ask, "Well how am I supposed to do that? Most of my day is dealing with trying to figure out how I am going to pay for everything. Its great to dream and envision but I also have to deal with my current reality which is currently not very abundant".

This is where a Vision Board or Creation Board comes in. A Vision Board is a board or place where you put all of the things you are wanting Universe to provide to you. You simply go through magazines or the internet and find pictures of exactly what it is you are wanting. Clip them out and put them on your board.

If you can't find a picture of what you are wanting, you can type up a saying, a reminder or an affirmation. Make it fancy, print it out and put it on your board. The important part is to have it someplace where you can remind yourself constantly that your current financial state is only temporary and the things and places on that board is where you are headed.

So now your next question might be "But what if I work someplace where I can't display a board to look at all day long? or "What if I don't want the rest of the world knowing what it is that I am creating -- It is very personal to me."

To that I say - be creative! Write it down in one of those little notepads you can easily store in your pocketbook and look at it frequently. If you are a man, insert little cards into your wallet that you will see every time you open it.

Actually, one of my personal favorites is putting the board on your computer. Especially if you work in an office or do not want a large board hanging in your home for all to see.

There are great programs available that will help you create your Vision Board right on your own computer or laptop that you can glance at anytime you want.

You can add pictures to them, even music. You can create slide shows.

In truth I have found these to be the most effective. I have found that the boards I have made on the computer with these programs, where I have also inserted my favorite inspiring song or have used my own voice, stay with me all day even when I am not directly in front of the computer looking at it.

I find myself humming the song and the video replaying in my mind automatically and I find myself giving much more attention to what I do want as opposed to what I do not want quite naturally. Which of coarse in turn, brings to me what I want so much faster.

Some of these new programs even have the ability to download a mini version onto your iPod, cell phone, PDA and digital photo frames. How cool is that?! The one I most often use has a pop up balloon that displays my affirmations at a chosen time interval so it pops up and reminds me even if I am not consciously thinking about it.

So get started today! Get excited and go find the pictures of the things that you are wanting in your life! Cut and paste to make your own physical board or go make that video. Feel inspired as you know you are taking the first action towards changing your life. You will find yourself getting so caught up in it that you will not want to stop.

Watch the video or look at your board as often as possible and feel good and inspired by it! Remember the more time you spend focusing on what you do want, the faster it will come to you!

Happy Creating!

For those interested I have a link from my old website with a program you might want to try. You can find it here

June 29, 2008

How Taking Just One Little Inspired Action Can Get the Ball Rolling

There is a major debate going on about the requirement of taking action when it comes to the Law of Attraction. There are some who say that action is not required - only heartfelt belief is necessary, while others claim that absolutely action is required by you to create what you are wanting in life.

So what is the answer? Well the truth is... I guess it is possible that Universe can bring you whatever you want without you even having to leave your couch. It's not like its never happened to anyone before, but if you want to create what you want in your life much faster, with more excitement, and a wonderful feeling of accomplishment, I would stick with the "taking some action" part. Not all action, mind you - just some inspired action to get the ball rolling.

For instance, a friend of mine was unhappy with her job. She was unhappy with her new supervisor, the new longer hours, and the new tasks she had been given by this new supervisor. But she had been with the company for almost 15 years and was seriously afraid of leaving her comfort zone. She felt she had accrued her vacation time, her years of salary and kept hoping by some miracle something was going to change to make the situation better. She tried to think positive thoughts, tried to believe, but didn't take any action of her own. After almost 8 months of misery she realized that nothing was happening or changing and at least some action would have to be taken on her part.

Her problem now however, was getting past the fear of all the change that would be involved. The thought of putting together a new resume, going on interviews, giving notice at her old company, leaving the friends she currently had at work, the fear of new responsibilities, new people to work with, all overwhelmed her. Any action she even thought of taking seemed very painful and difficult.

After discussing it for awhile I convinced her that taking even one little action or step in the right direction may be all that was needed. It was just the point of getting her out of "stuck" mode.

I told her to start by going online and looking in the paper daily to see what job opportunities were available. I told her she didn't have to act on any of them if she didn't want to. Just relax and enjoy looking at positions that she thought might be fun places to work. I also told her to feel proud of herself that she was just taking this first step into possibly making a move.

Eventually, she found herself looking forward to going through the want ads knowing there was no pressure for her to have to do anything about those positions yet. And sure enough she found a few that were interesting. So I told her the next step would be to play with her resume. Rewrite it so was slanted for each position, putting the emphasis on the things that each job required from its prospective applicants. For instance, if one stressed customer service write a version of her resume that stressed that. If another was heavy computer experience , create a resume that stressed that. The point was to make it like a game. Write the perfect resume for each position, save each one of them, but again don't feel as if she was pressured to do anything with them yet. This was just to get used to the feel of it. So she did these things for a couple of weeks. No stress -- she just played around.

Interestingly enough, as she did this day after the day the thought of making a move was no longer as intimidating a thought. Her subconscious started taking over and the idea of working someplace new started to feel more natural to her. The pros started outweighing the cons and she found herself actually looking forward to the change.

Now here is where the ironic part comes in and where Universe started kicking in and doing its share of the "work". While her focus had been on what little actions she could be taking to change her circumstances, Universe was doing its own thing and was busy preparing the perfect position for her.

It ended up that a position in a different department in her own company had opened up. (If she hadn't been playing her little game she probably would have missed the job listing that came out in the monthly company bulletin.)

Without even giving herself time to think about it - she quickly faxed one of her newly redesigned resumes that fit the job description perfectly. To her amazement they called her back within a couple of hours and asked to see her that day after work. She hadn't even had time to be nervous or worried about it. She finished her day at work, went straight up to their office and got the job.

Just by taking those few little steps of action, she ended up with far more than she could have imagined. She got to keep her seniority in the company, her vacation time, her salary, was still able to meet her friends for lunch and she got rid of that pesky supervisor. And all with very little effort on her part.

So give the Universe a hand. If there is something you are wanting, figure out what few little steps you can take now to help it along. They don't have to be huge actions - just inspired ones -- then watch as the Universe takes it and runs with it!

Happy Creating!

June 27, 2008

Manifestation Exercise # 14 - Creating Your Own Spiritual Counsel

This is one of the most fun exercises I have discovered in awhile. I originally got the idea from Paul Piotrowski from InspiredMoneyMaker.com. He writes that it was also a popular exercise of Napoleon Hill of Think and Grow Rich fame.

The idea is to mentally assemble your own Spiritual or Invisible Counsel to help offer you advice or direction when you have a question or difficult decision to make.

It can consist of anywhere between 5 to 10 people (living or dead) that most inspire you. For instance, Bills Gates, Warren Buffet or Donald Trump for money issues. Abraham-Hicks, the Dali Lama or even Jesus Christ for spiritual issues. A favorite athlete for advice on health, or a famous actor or actress if a specific talent or style question is on your mind.

Now close your eyes and mentally imagine that you are sitting in a board room where there is a large boardroom table surrounded by empty chairs. You are sitting at the head of this table and awaiting for each of “your” counsel members to appear. At times you might only want to invite the people who can help with a particular problem such as Mr. Buffet for money matters; but personally I found it more fun to invite a whole bunch of different characters so I could get each of their unique opinions on a subject.

For instance, Warren might be the perfect person to discuss money matters, but I have also found his truly down-to-earth personality has “spoken up” on unrelated topics and given some great advice as well.

Now mentally ask the question that is on your mind and silently wait for each of these people to answer. Pretend as if you were in a real meeting. Do not be discouraged if some do not respond at all. Also note that not every answer may be in verbal form. It might also come in the form of a gesture or a mental picture instead. Just wait patiently for the answer.

So let’s try some examples:

Let’s say you have two credit card bills and you are wondering which one you should pay off first. Your first natural instinct might be to pay off the creditor who is yelling the loudest, but now “ask” Donald Trump the same question and his advice might be “Are you crazy? Pay off the one with the highest rate so it will cost you less in the long run!“ (Actually “Donald” is whispering in my ear right now and telling me “I wouldn’t do either of those things. I would call both companies and negotiate a better deal with each one of them!” -- You gotta love The Donald.)


Say your question is spiritual in nature or about love, forgiveness, anger, etc. how do you think Jesus Christ would respond? (I’ve gotten some awesomely warm and enlightened answers from him when I have asked.)

What if your question is something as simple as having an occasion coming up and being unsure of what to wear. Dressy? Casual? Your old thought patterns might automatically go to “How will everyone else be dressed? I don’t want to stand out too much. Now imagine that Angelina Jolie or Katherine Hepburn (if you are a woman obviously) are sitting at your table and you ask them that question. One or both would probably respond “Who the he** cares what anyone else is wearing? Create your own style -- be your own person!…“ A thought that might have never entered your own “habitual” mind.

I have to admit I am having a lot more fun with this exercise than I originally thought I would.

I am getting some really creative and unique responses to questions that I would never have come up with on my “own“.

Is my focusing on these people somehow tapping into their actual energy for answers? I don’t know for sure. Then again, if we are all one and the same energy, maybe it is just the practice of allowing myself to be “open” to all answers that is letting my higher self or Universe come through with the unique answers that it does.

Sometimes we get so used to hearing our “own mental voice” with its habitual way of thinking and solving problems, that we forget that we are actually “allowed” to think outside of our own box.

The best part of this exercise is that I have found that the advice I have gotten works!! Granted at times it has felt a little uncomfortable stretching outside my usual comfort zone, but afterwards I felt great! Like “Wow, I actually did that!” kind of great. And I learn and I grow just a little bit more; which is really what this is all about, isn’t it?

So give it a try today. Take at least 15 minutes of quiet time and “call a meeting.” Ask your question and then patiently wait for your answer. Take notes as you would in a real meeting. Don’t dismiss anything out of hand as not do-able, just take it all down and watch the unique answers you receive. Give yourself some time to get used to the possibility of the idea if it originally feels a little uncomfortable. Ask yourself “What the heck do I have to lose by giving this a shot?”

Not only do you get great advice and get to grow a little, but you get to have fun at the same time!

Happy Creating!

June 26, 2008

Law of Attraction Manifestation Exercise #13- Find Out How Much You Truly Value Yourself

One of the most exciting things I enjoy about constantly studying new books about the Law of Attraction and Spirituality is that I literally learn something new everyday.

Even something I may have heard 100 times before can take on a new meaning to me, depending on the new place I am currently standing.

I have been studying the Law of Attraction now for almost 20 years, and there have been quite a few shockers along the way that have stood out in my mind.

The following exercise is one of them.

I had been studying for almost 10 years when I came across this simple exercise whose outcome quite surprised me.

After all those years of reading I had convinced myself I had a pretty good grasp on things.

I had started to learn that we all have the same exact right to be on this planet and that not one single one of us were better or worse than anyone else. We were all equal, we were all part of the I AM, the ONE and each of our presences on this Earth is just as important as the next persons.

I had started to learn not to take criticism others directed towards me personally because I realized they were coming from a different place than I was. Their opinion was just that -- their opinion, and had no bearing on the life I was creating for myself.

I was even starting to realize that we are simply here to create whatever lives we desire to create and that whatever we created was perfect. There was no blueprint. No one hanging over us saying what is right and what is wrong.

In other words, if you would have asked me then if I loved myself exactly as I was and valued myself as a person, I would have answered with a unequivocal yes! Or at least… so I thought.

Because then I came across this simple exercise…and realized I had a lot more to learn.

Here is the exercise. Go up to a mirror, look at your reflection, tell yourself “I Love You“ and see what your immediate gut reaction is.

A little corny…I agree. But a piece of cake, right?

That’s what I thought too when I first read about it. I even considered just blowing it off because it sounded like such a sappy exercise, but “something” told me to stop what I was doing and try it anyway.

So I did.

I went up to the mirror, looked at my reflection and said “I Love You.” The words were not even completely out of my mouth when suddenly I deeply felt “No, I don’t!“ I tried it again. “I Love You” -- “No!… I don’t!“

“Your hair is a mess, when are you getting it cut? Look at those circles under your eyes, you look horrible! You are so lazy. I am not proud of you at all! When do you plan on paying those bills piled on your desk, what about the phone calls you were supposed to make? How can I love that?!”


My ego voice came through so loud, clear and nastily that I was stunned. Here I was, all “Miss Spiritual Awareness“ and I couldn‘t even say these three simple most basic words to myself in the mirror without a barrage of insults coming back at me.

And they weren’t very important ones at that! I was supposed to be seeing the bigger picture here, not “not loving myself” due to my haircut!

And that was when I realized how far I really still had to go regarding self-acceptance. Take about a lesson in humility! Here I was thinking that I was “mastering” this new outlook on life and then realized I had barely even begun to scratch the surface.

I still do this exercise every once in awhile to gauge how far I have come. And while I admit it has gotten a lot easier to say these words to myself and I can feel a much more loving feeling behind them, I am still not at 100% acceptance yet.

So if you want to discover how far you might still have to go, try this exercise for yourself. Remember it has to be in front of a mirror, you can’t just say it in your head -- that‘s cheating.

You will see a major difference when you are “facing yourself” with these words. After all, you can’t lie to yourself at the same time you are actually facing yourself.

And if anything negative pops into your mind like it did in mine, pay attention to it! It will give you some clues on what you need to address to love yourself more.

Also very important. If you feel a lot of resistance at even the thought of doing this exercise because it feels silly or uncomfortable to you - than that is all the more reason for you do it immediately. It means something is seriously hiding there that does not want to be looked at and the only way to begin to conquer it is head on.

It is said that you truly can’t love another unless you truly love yourself first, and I believe that to be absolutely true. And just think…you probably say these words to friends and family all the time. Don’t you deserve to hear it from the most important person in your life….You?!

Happy Creating!

June 25, 2008

Create a Vision Board To Bring More Money Into Your Life

"O.K. I have asked Universe again and again for something I want. I have thought about it and envisioned it and it is no closer to showing up than the first day I asked."

Does this sound familiar to you? This is one of the most frequent complaints I hear from people who have learned, read and studied about the Law of Attraction but are having problems making it work for them personally.

It is usually pretty easy when I delve a little deeper into their situation to figure out what the problem is.

For instance, say you declare that you want to create a lot of money. You can see it in your minds eye, you may even be able to "feel" how it feels to have it (very important, by the way), and you do this for about an average of 10-20 seconds a day.

And you have done it exactly right. That is all that is required for the Universe to kick into action and start working its magic to bring it to you. However, a week later you find that you are no better off than you were before - sometimes you find your situation may even be worse.

So what is the problem? The problem is not in how or what you asked for. The Universe is totally neutral. It does not care what it delivers or to whom it brings it.

The problem lies in what you think about after you have asked for the money. While those 10 to 20 seconds are very important every day, what are you thinking about the other 14 to 16 hours you are awake?

What are you thinking if a creditor calls, when you open your mail and see the bills, when your kids want something extravagant? Do you feel a knot in your stomach. Do you say things like, "there is no way I can pay this, or that bill is outrageous, or we absolutely cannot afford that?"

You see, in having these thoughts the rest of the day Universe will again kick in to do its job. But now it will reverse its original direction of that mornings objective and now focus on the messages it is currently being given.

So what is the answer? Quite simply, is to keep your focus more often on what you do want during the day as opposed to what you do not want. You see, whichever thought gets more of the attention - wins! It is the law!

So then you may ask, "Well how am I supposed to do that? Most of my day is dealing with trying to figure out how I am going to pay for everything. Its great to dream and envision but I also have to deal with my current reality which is currently not very abundant".

This is where a Vision Board or Creation Board comes in. A Vision Board is a board or place where you put all of the things you are wanting Universe to provide to you. You simply go through magazines or the internet and find pictures of exactly what it is you are wanting. Clip them out and put them on your board.


If you can't find a picture of what you are wanting, you can type up a saying, a reminder or an affirmation. Make it fancy, print it out and put it on your board. The important part is to have it someplace where you can remind yourself constantly that your current financial state is only temporary and the things and places on that board is where you are headed.

So now your next question might be "But what if I work someplace where I can't display a board to look at all day long? or "What if I don't want the rest of the world knowing what it is that I am creating -- It is very personal to me."

To that I say - be creative! Write it down in one of those little notepads you can easily store in your pocketbook and look at it frequently. If you are a man, insert little cards into your wallet that you will see every time you open it.

Actually, one of my personal favorites is putting the board on your computer. Especially if you work in an office or do not want a large board hanging in your home for all to see.

There are great programs available that will help you create your Vision Board right on your own computer or laptop that you can glance at anytime you want.

You can add pictures to them, even music. You can create slide shows.

In truth I have found these to be the most effective. I have found that the boards I have made on the computer with these programs, where I have also inserted my favorite inspiring song or have used my own voice, stay with me all day even when I am not directly in front of the computer looking at it.

I find myself humming the song and the video replaying in my mind automatically and I find myself giving much more attention to what I do want as opposed to what I do not want quite naturally. Which of coarse in turn, brings to me what I want so much faster.

Some of these new programs even have the ability to download a mini version onto your iPod, cell phone, PDA and digital photo frames. How cool is that?! The one I most often use has a pop up balloon that displays my affirmations at a chosen time interval so it pops up and reminds me even if I am not consciously thinking about it.

So get started today! Get excited and go find the pictures of the things that you are wanting in your life! Cut and paste to make your own physical board or go make that video. Feel inspired as you know you are taking the first action towards changing your life. You will find yourself getting so caught up in it that you will not want to stop.

Watch the video or look at your board as often as possible and feel good and inspired by it! Remember the more time you spend focusing on what you do want, the faster it will come to you!

Happy Creating!

June 21, 2008

Manifestation Exercise # 12: How To Attract And Create A Happier Love Relationship

Ahhh…Relationships. They can provide the highest of highs or the lowest of lows. They can be so addicting…contain so much emotion…and sometimes cause you so many problems you want to scream!

Everyone knows how it is at the beginning of a relationship. The incredible surge of energy you send each others way!

When a relationship first begins you are each giving 100% of your energy to the other person. 100% of your energy surges with those first kisses, 100% of energy surges when you hear their voice on the answering machine, the butterflies start flying in your stomach as they are on their way to see you! The other person is all you think about and vice versa. It is one of the most incredible highs in the world and it feels like nothing can bring you down! Until one day something does.

You see, the problems begin when you get addicted to that initial energy. Because it feels so great in the beginning you want that feeling to go on forever. When it doesn‘t however, you start to feel as if someone let the air out of your balloon.

If you were able to look at the situation clearly (i.e., without emotion) you would be able to see that nobody can maintain that kind of energy flow forever.

Yes, while at the beginning of the relationship the relationship itself is getting 100% of each of your attention and energies, eventually “real life” has got to come back into the picture. Eventually problems at work are going to need both of your attentions as well. So will money matters, family matters, car repair matters, etc.

And this is where many of the problems begin.

Another pitfall that occurs due to this initial energy surge is you start to believe that your partner now somehow holds your future happiness in their hands. Seeing as they were the ones responsible for making you feel so good in the beginning, you now subconsciously or unconsciously believe it is their responsibility to continue to make you feel good in the future; and if for some reason you do not feel good, than it must somehow be their fault.

The following exercise is designed for anyone who is currently in a relationship that might be having problems or for anyone who might be looking to enter a new relationship. It is an exercise to help you regain your personal power and shows you how to make yourself feel better regardless of what is happening in your relationship.

Grab a piece of paper or open up a word document and write down an answer to the following questions. It is probably better to copy the questions and keep them in a word document so you can easily refer back to them during any weaker relationship moments.
Questions:

1. Do I put the responsibility of my happiness or unhappiness in my partners hands?

2. When something goes wrong in my life or I am unhappy, do I go out of my way to blame the person I am with and somehow make it their fault?

3. Why have I given this person so much control over my happiness?

4. Do I see our relationship as two emotionally healthy people deciding to share our lives together or do I see this person as part of my own identity?

5. Do I try to make this person do anything they don’t want to do?

6. Do they try to make me do anything I don’t want to do?

7. Why do we do that?

8. Didn’t I have a life before they were in it?

9. Have I stopped doing anything I used to enjoy doing since I have been with this person?

10. Why have I allowed myself to do that?

11. Isn’t it possible that this person really does love me - but just doesn’t have the time or ability to see to 100% of all my needs all the time?

12. Do I really think it should be their responsibility to think about me and only me all of the time?

13. If I do…why do I think that?

14. Didn’t I come down to this planet to create the best life for my “self” that I can create?

15. Didn’t they come down to do the same?

16. Where did we get the idea that it is either of our responsibilities to make the other person happy?

17. Is it even possible to make someone else happy if deep down they are not?

18. Is there anything I can do to make myself feel better regardless of what they do or do not do?

19. If this person was not in my life right now, would I be doing anything different to make myself happy (other than dating other people of coarse)?

20. What about this relationship is keeping me from doing that now?

The point of this exercise is to remember that you are indeed your OWN person.

Only you have the ability to make yourself happy or unhappy. Only you have the ability to control how and what you think.

You came down to this Earth to create your own life experience. If you choose to include someone to enjoy that experience with you - great. But if suddenly the life


you are trying to create is dependent on what the other person says or does, than you have some tweaking to do.

It is simply a bad habit you have let yourself fall into if you let your happiness depend on another and it is simply time to reclaim your own happiness creating abilities.

So how do you do this?

The first thing to do is remember that believe it or not you DID used to have a life of your own before this person was in it. Now I don’t mean that in a negative way as if you should get rid of the person, but I mean it as a simple fact.

Yes there were actually times in your life that you laughed before they were there. There were times you felt good about yourself, felt confident, felt competent, felt happy.
Yes, once upon a time you did attend parties, celebrate holidays, have friends, worked at jobs and even ate meals before this person was in your life so you obviously do not need this person to survive or to make you happy.

The second thing to remember is that you have chosen this person to be in your life and they have done the same. It is not an obligation on either or your parts. Forget any ridiculous outside pressure that makes you feel you need to do or be a certain way in a relationship or that once in a relationship you are “too far in” to get out of it.

You came here to create the life you desire and other people have the same responsibility to create theirs. Not only are neither of you responsible for each others happiness, it is impossible to deliver it even if you wanted to. As you may have discovered, no matter what you can do for someone or what they do for you “it just never seems to be enough.” This is simply because you can’t find happiness outside of yourself. Only you can bring yourself complete fulfillment.

The last thing to remember is that if you have made the mistake of losing yourself in past relationships, your current one or are even thinking about entering a new one, you need to remember to keep your own identity. Remember what you want in life, what you enjoy doing, what your interests are.

If you find that you are losing yourself in the relationship, start reclaiming yourself by making a conscious effort to do things you enjoy doing -- and yes -- you can do them on your own if your partner is not interested. Go alone or call a friend. Actually doing things apart from each other is healthy. It helps you to maintain your own independence and identity and gives you interesting things to talk about.

Not to mention if the worst does happen and the relationship does end, you still have a life to go back to.

Relationships can be awesome. When you are with someone you can laugh and share with, someone you can respect and have fun with and yes someone you can depend on at times to help you get through some of the rougher spots in life.

As long as you don’t lose yourself along the way or forget who is really responsible for your happiness you can be together for many happy years to come.

Happy Creating!

June 20, 2008

The Most Important Thing The Movie "The Secret" Didn't Tell You

Let me start by saying I love the movie The Secret. I find it inspiring, enlightening, and fun to listen to. I even bought the CD's which I keep in my car and in my portable CD player that I pop in anytime I would like a dose of inspiration. As fun as the movie and CD's are however, there have been some very important points left out that can make all the difference in making The Universal Law of Attraction work for you.

The most important concept that was left out was the concept of taking Action. In reading and listening to interviews given by some of the stars of the movie I found out that quite a lot of footage that discussed the concept of taking action was left on the cutting room floor. Either due to lack of time, or maybe because it broke the "feel good flow" the movie was trying to create. Whatever the reason, it is an extremely important part of what makes the Law of Attraction work. An imperative part!

Now I know this may cause a few people to feel disheartened to hear this. I remember when I first realized it (quite a few years ago) that I had felt that way too. I wanted it to be easier than that. I wanted the genie that popped out and said your wish is my command without having to do anything on my end.

I am not even talking from a laziness point of view. I am speaking more from being so overwhelmed in dealing with day to day things that I didn't believe I could find time to even think about, let alone take, new actions in other areas. (Another big misconception by the way.)


You see I later discovered that the problem I had (and I know a lot of others do too) is how I felt about the word "action" Action to me in the traditional sense of the word meant "work", or that it had to be hard, or that it had to be something I didn't want to do.

And I found when I tried to take "action" from that point of view absolutely nothing worked out for me. I even started to think the whole Law of Attraction thing was a bunch of hooey. It wasn't until I discovered the key was not to just take "action" - but "inspired action." that things started to change.

Here's the deal. If we were meant to have everything we wanted the second we snapped our fingers we would have no need to be on this physical planet. Heck we can do that in other realms. We chose to be on this planet to create physically. We came to this planet to purposely experience the time delay that occurs between the time we decide to create something and the time it takes for us to experience it. We chose this time delay to give ourselves the chance to change and remold our desires as new and better ideas come to us and we can be more clear about what it is exactly that we are wanting. And I for one am very grateful for that delay! Can you imagine how many regrets we might have if some of our thoughts (especially ones in anger) came through immediately?

So the question is, what is the difference between "have-to" action and inspired action? Inspired action feels good! "Have-to" action does not. Inspired action feels right! "Have-to" action makes you feel twisted. Inspired action "feels" like the correct next step. "Have-to" action makes you feel resentful.

So how do you go about creating what you want? The first step is for you to decide what it is that you would like to create. The next step is to ask and expect Universe to help bring it to you in the easiest way possible. The last step is to take some kind of inspired action to start the ball rolling.

For example: Let us say that your goal is to get a very heavy suitcase up to the 5th floor of a building. Now if you were to just sit on the curb with the suitcase and take no action expecting Universe to handle it all - that suitcase isn't going anywhere.

Your second option can be to stick with your old way of thinking. Convincing yourself that this is going to be a long and arduous task and you start looking for the huge staircase that you are going to use to drag the darn thing up there.

Or you can use the Law of Attraction way. State to the Universe your intention of getting this suitcase up to the 5th floor as easily as possible and believe that Universe will step in to show you the way. Take the action of grabbing the suitcase by the handle and starting towards the building and then ask the person who just happens to be standing there if they have any ideas that can help you -- where they will then point you towards an elevator that you hadn't noticed before.

You see, the Law of Attraction is real and it will work for you. But it also needs your help. Decide what it is that you want to accomplish. State to the Universe this is your goal and you want help to accomplish it as easily as possible. Then take the first step you can do to start accomplishing that goal. You will be amazed how easily things will fall into place once you get the ball rolling!

Happy Creating!

June 19, 2008

An Easy Way To Change Your Negative Vibration Into A Positive One

The basis of the Law of Attraction is that you attract things and circumstances that are operating at the same vibrational level that your thoughts are.

The higher that you keep your mental vibration, the better things you can bring to yourself that are also at that higher vibrational level. For instance, when you are start out having a really great day - things just seem to fall into place and keep getting better. However, it works the opposite way as well. When you are having a "bad" day and are vibrating at a lower level, one bad thing after another seems to occur.

So obviously the trick is to do everything in your power to stay at a higher vibrational level. Sounds easy enough, but as you know, sometimes hard to put into practice in everyday life. It sounds great to have someone tell you "just think positive" but how do you do that after you have just a disagreement with a spouse, child, co-worker, bill collector or whatever the case may be?

The answer is mental distraction and this is where great technology can come in. You have probably experienced in the past that sometimes you just can't get a bad mood out of your system on your own. While I personally love meditation, I also know it is sometimes very difficult to quiet your mind enough after a confrontation to reap the benefits of the practice.

This is where places like YouTube can offer a fun and easy fix. There are so many entertaining, funny and inspiring videos that you can obtain in as little as 5 minutes that can give you the distraction that you need, if even for just a few moments.

For instance, did you know that you can find all 4 Rocky "workout montage scenes" on YouTube? I don't know about you, but I find I can't help but feel inspired every time I watch those scenes in any of the movies. If you find yourself in a place where you just can't seem to get the energy up to accomplish what lies before you on a certain day, I highly recommend you watch 2 or 3 of these clips to get the flow of inspiration. It takes as little as 3 minutes each to watch each clip, but the feeling can stay with you all day long.


How about laughter? I have two clips in my YouTube favorites category that make me laugh every single time I watch them. One is from the old Carol Burnett Show where Tim Conway goes off on a tangent about Siamese elephants just to make his costars laugh. It is called "Tim Conway Elephant Story". If you type it in the YouTube search box, it will bring it right up. (Or you can go here to my website for direct links to all of the videos.)

The last few seconds with Vicki Lawrence are priceless. The second is a hysterical laughing baby titled "Hahaha". I find that watching either one of these clips changes my mood instantly. Maybe someday I will get bored of them and will have to look for more favorites, but I can promise you it won't be anytime soon.

How about an inspirational ending of one of your favorite movies? I have the endings of Flashdance, Dirty Dancing, Footloose, Grease, a clip from FAME and many others I just enjoy tuning into for a quick feel-good boost. (I know... I know... they are all chick flicks - but hey it works for me!)

Favorite upbeat song? It is on YouTube. Favorite old commercial? Chances are it is there too.

Want inspiration? Watch the last 5 minutes of the Shawshank Redemption (titled The Shawshank Redemption - Final Scene - Movie Ending ), or the last ten minutes of it's a Wonderful Life (under It's A Wonderful Life Ending). I cry with happy tears every time.

I even found the opening segments of some of my favorite childhood shows that bring a touch of nostalgia. They have the opening song for H.R. Pufinstuf, Sigmund and The Sea Monsters, The Land of the Lost and all the other corny Saturday morning shows I used to watch growing up. You try and stay in a bad mood while the song H.R. Pufinstuf keeps playing through your head.

Looking for a spiritual boost? The Secret has a great Video out titled " The Secret Riches Visualization Tools". An awesome video to watch while having coffee first thing in the morning or when you first arrive at work. It can set the tone for the rest of your day. There a ton more inspirational videos like that as well from all different sources. Just type in Law of Attraction in the search box.

Anyway, you get the gist of it. Think of the unusual. Something that tickles your particular fancy and give yourself a ten minute boost period.

Most importantly, do not feel guilty about it or feel as if you are just wasting time. You cannot put your time to better use, than making yourself feel better first - before taking any kind of action from a negative place. You will see a drastic difference in the outcome. (I do recommend however, waiting until the boss steps away for a moment before playing them. I don't know if they will be as understanding about your needed attitude adjustment.)

So, go and make yourself feel better in a quick, cheap and easy way!

Happy Creating!

June 18, 2008

Manifestation Exercise # 11 - Discovering the Hidden Positives Behind The Negatives

This is a good exercise to use when you want to discover what is really going on behind the scenes of your negative experiences. There is something positive beyond them - you just need to discover what it is.

You see, your higher self sees beyond time and current circumstances. It knows your “true intentions“, even if you are unaware of them consciously, and it will do everything in its power to match you vibrationally to that thing you are “truly” wanting.

For instance, if your higher intention is safety and security and something comes up that will jeopardize that safety and security (even if you are unaware that it will jeopardize it at the time) it is not at all surprising that obstacles will suddenly appear to prevent you from making a mistake.

Quite often we can misinterpret this obstacles as negative things happening to us or it is just us “not getting what we want when we want it” but there is a little more to it than that.

The following story is an example:

My husband and I were living in a house we bought in Staten Island when we first got married. At the time we bought it, we were both working full time in Manhattan, and while we were making just enough to afford it, there was no extra money.

After a couple of years we decided we wanted to have a baby, but realized that there was no way we could continue to pay for the house if I quit working to stay home to take care of the baby (which I really wanted to do) nor could we afford a full time sitter under the circumstances.

So we decided the only logical solution was to sell our house in New York and have a house built in Southern New Jersey about an hour and a half away. The houses there were much cheaper and we could afford to live there on one salary. We were leaving friends and family behind, but we couldn’t see any other choice.

This was when we ended up making one of the most ridiculous mistakes we could have ever made (or so we thought). Instead of taking the money from the sale of our Staten Island home and putting it into an escrow account to be used for the down payment on the new house we were having built, we made the mistake of giving the money directly to the builder. This builder then proceeded to skip town with it; leaving us with no house, no money to buy another one and no way to find him. By the time this all occurred I was already six months pregnant. Now to say I was despondent was putting it mildly!

We had no choice but to get ourselves an apartment in Staten Island and pray that we would hit some kind of lottery, because with only my husband working it would take years to save up enough money for another down payment. On top of that, the housing boom hit which put $200,000 homes into the half million dollar category! Talk about watching your dream get further and further away from you!

Now you see, I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason, but at the time, I truly couldn’t figure this one out. We were both good and honest people; we had worked hard and had saved every penny we could and now it was all gone in one fell swoop.

Even though I had already starting learning about the law of attraction, this was a really tough one for me to overcome. No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t seem to get past the resentment I felt towards the whole situation. Which of coarse kept me in the situation even longer.

Eventually I started getting back into studying, meditating and looking forward instead of back. It was no easy climb, I assure you. But I started my own online business and put all my energy into focusing on bringing more money in as opposed to staying focused on what we had lost.

Now this is when things got interesting. During the time this was all happening, my mother met a really great guy she was getting serious with. He had his own house in Pennsylvania and she eventually found herself spending more time there then she was in her own house in Staten Island. She didn’t want to sell her house because she still wanted a place to be able to come back to when she visited us or my brother.

So she made us a deal. If my husband and I would take over all the expenses of the house (the mortgage was paid off years ago, so it was just taxes, insurance and the utilities), we could live there as long as we wanted. We only needed to leave the guest room open for her anytime she wanted to visit. Talk about a no-brainer!

The part that strikes me funny though (and what inspired this article, by the way) is that I just came across my old law of attraction journals and read what I had written years ago right before I had sold my own Staten Island home.

It is the list of intentions I wrote to Universe about what I was choosing to create for my future. This is what it said:

I choose to live in a beautiful house I can easily afford
I choose it to be in a great neighborhood
I choose to be surrounded by good friends and neighbors
I choose it to be located in a great school zone

There were some other minor things, but that was the gist of it. What amazes me looking at it now is realizing that I never stated that I had to own the house, or that I was going to have the perfect house built, or even stated that it was going to be a beautiful house in New Jersey; though I know at the time that I wrote the list that that was the direction we were headed because we were already in the process.

All I know is, I am glad that Universe took me at my word and I am very happy that in this case I wasn‘t more specific, because I couldn’t have foreseen how much better this situation would work out for me.

You see, in the time that it took for all these things to occur, the property taxes in the area of New Jersey that I was going to move to has since tripled! If I was living there now it would be costing me more than I was originally paying for my


first Staten Island house that I couldn’t afford. It would have been a constant financial struggle, even if I had found another full time job out of the house.

Not to mention how easily the other things on my list fell into place. I am living in a great neighborhood, I am already surrounded by good friends and neighbors because I have known them most of my life growing up here and my son is in the same excellent school zone I was in!

The point is, quite often we don’t realize when we are right in the thick of what we perceive to be a negative situation, that there is something for our greater good beyond it.

We get so focused on cursing the darkness in the tunnel that we forget to look for the light at the end of it.

So here is the exercise for you. It comes in two parts with a bonus at the end if you really want to get into it..

Part One

Think back and write down all the times when what you thought was a negative situation turned into a positive one.

For instance:

--When you had to cancel vacation plans due to work or lack of money and found out later they had a hurricane that week.

--When you missed your flight due to bad weather and then found out the plane you were supposed to be on got stuck on the tarmac for 7 hours and you were at least in a comfortable airport with a bar and a bathroom!

-- When you didn’t get a job you thought you wanted and ended up being available for a better one.

-- When the person you wanted to call you never did, and you ended up meeting the “one” because you were single.

-- When you missed making the perfect investment, only to find out the company tanked and you would have lost a ton of money.

You get the idea. These things happen all the time. Writing them down helps reaffirm to you that Universe (or your higher self, if you prefer) does in fact have your best interests at heart. If you have a hard time coming up with anything, think about every good thing in your life right now and backtrack. Believe me, you will start to see many ways these things couldn’t have come to you if you had indeed gotten what you originally asked for.

Part Two

Start looking for the light at the end of your tunnel by asking What If? What If The Reason I Haven’t Gotten What I Want Yet Is Because….? Start stretching your mind with ideas of what your higher self might have in store for you that you just haven’t realized yet.

For example:

-- What if (I didn’t get this position) because a better one is waiting for me.

-- What if (the reason the deal on buying the house fell through) was because the roof is about to collapse this winter and it would have cost me a fortune I wouldn’t have.

-- What if (the reason he/she hasn’t called me for another date) was because they are total psychos and my higher self knows better than for me to get involved with them.

-- What if (the reason the car broke down today when I had somewhere really important to be) was because I would have been involved in a major accident if I had been on the highway today.

-- What if (the reason I can’t afford the ski trip right now) is because I would have broken my leg on the slopes.

-- What if (the reason I am stuck on the absolutely slowest line in the store) is because if I left earlier I would run into someone I really don’t want to see right now.

Really stretch your imagination. The fun part of this exercise is that it can help soothe you through disappointment. But the most important part happens later when you prove yourself to be right and you indeed confirm that your higher self has your best interests at heart. That’s when you begin to trust that everything is happening in exactly the right order.

Now for the Bonus Part if you really want to get into it.

Step Three

Try to find your true “hidden intention” as opposed to what you think that you want.

For instance, with my Jersey house. I originally thought my intention was to have this beautifully built house in New Jersey. But in truth my “hidden intention” was just to live in a beautiful house I could afford. This was obvious by how I wrote my intention on my list. After struggling financially in our first house, security was really all I was looking for and just hadn’t realized it. It wasn’t until after I received it that I noticed the blessing it really was.

Maybe in your case, your “hidden intention” was to find someone who really cared about you and was interested in the same things you are. You might have originally thought you were going to find this with a person of the opposite sex but instead you found it in the new best friend you made six months ago and you just haven‘t realized it yet.

So start enjoying and appreciating that friend that Universe sent you in answer to your request and watch how that higher vibration will automatically attract the opposite sex person you are also wanting. Heck! It might even be through that friend.

We are happily such complicated creatures. So much lies below the surface we aren‘t even aware of. But the daily discovery of these things is what makes life so fun and interesting.

Just the fact that you are reading these types of articles means you are already on your way to discovery.

So start looking for the positives that await you in your future. If something you are going through appears negative at the moment, it simply means you haven’t yet discovered the place your higher self is leading you to.

Don’t get discouraged, don’t give up and don’t curse the darkness. Start taking the first steps now to finding the light at the end of your tunnel.

Happy Creating!

June 17, 2008

Law of Attraction: Does Your Learning Process Seem Like Feast or Famine?

I have gone through many different stages of development in the last 20 years that I have been studying and learning the Law of Attraction.

One of the stages that used to drive me crazy the most, but I now find myself looking forward to, is what I like to call the “Feast or Famine” stage.

When I first starting studying the subject I would find myself becoming obsessed with learning more. I would go into every book store or library I could find and take out 3 or 4 books at a time. I would even read them at the same time. Chapter 1 of this book, Chapter 3 of this book, etc. It was such a rush! So many A-ha moments filled with excitement and expectation. Sometimes this phase would last for months at a time; then suddenly - BAM! - I would wake up one morning and have no interest in it at all. I would try and force myself to read more material but the words would just swim in front of my eyes, I couldn’t absorb any more of the material and felt absolutely no interest in it.

I used to hate those stages because I felt as if someone had let the air of my balloon. I missed that spiritual rush; but no matter how much I tried I just couldn’t get back into it and would find myself turning to something very simple like a romance novel or a gossip magazine.

At first, this used to upset me greatly. I would believe I had simply lost interest in the subject
(like I had done with so many other different things in my life) and was afraid I would never get it back again. And that bothered me, because I knew there was still so much to learn and benefit from.

Then all of a sudden - out of the blue - the learning obsession would be back. It felt as if it have never left, and again I found myself consuming as much information as I possibly could in as little time as possible. The rush was back and it felt great!


This spiritual growth “feast or famine” thing must have happened to me at least 10 times over the last 20 years, but luckily I learned after the first few times that it served a major purpose.

I realized that after those periods where I had absorbed so much information in such a short period of time, my subconscious needed time to digest it all and that was behind the purpose of the “down periods”. I discovered this to be true because when the “urge” would hit me again I would understand material at a much deeper level than I had previously.

Even if I read the same exact books over again, I would find a different meaning in them completely. Paragraphs I had initially highlighted the first time did not hit the A-ha cord they initially had, but the paragraphs that I hadn’t highlighted now touched me to the core of my being and brought the excitement again. I found myself considering the original highlighted parts as being boring because "I already understood that part", but found the un-highlighted parts felt like totally new enlightening ideas.

Now I find myself excited when those down periods occur because I know that when the tide turns again, I will be on a higher plateau of learning and creating.

So, if you find yourself feeling restless at your inability to concentrate, absorb more information, or to create “miracles” anymore, give yourself a break. Redirect your attention to something a lot lighter while giving your unconscious self time to absorb the information you just learned.

You will be amazed at the deeper level of understanding you will have when you are ready to approach it again. The old ideas that made you once ask yourself “can this possibly be true?” now change to “ I know that part is absolutely true” now tell me what comes next!

Enjoy this delicious learning process and be easy with yourself. Remember “Everything happens for a reason.”

Happy Creating!

June 15, 2008

Law of Attraction Manifestation Exercise #10 - Eliminating The Feeling of Guilt

As most of us know, the feeling of Guilt is probably one of the hardest emotions to deal with. It is a kind of a punch-in-the-gut feeling you would do just about anything to rid yourself of. It can sometimes make you cringe, want to run away, or do anything humanly possible you can do to make it better.

So is there any benefit to the emotion at all? Actually it depends. Is it a “healthy guilt” or an “unhealthy guilt.”

Now some people might ask what on earth is a “healthy guilt”? A “healthy guilt” can be simply a sign post from your higher self or Universe, if you prefer, that there are some things you might like to do differently in the future than you have been doing.

For instance, if you haven’t given your children the attention they deserve lately because you have been so busy and you feel that little guilt nudge, it is simply a sign that you need to change the situation a little.

If you haven’t been eating properly or taking as good care of yourself as you should be, you can use the nudge to start to change things.

So what then is an “unhealthy guilt”? An unhealthy guilt is normally a feeling you get from outsiders who tell you that you are doing “it” wrong or that you are somehow not living up to “their” standards.

Unfortunately, it is this guilt that can do the most damage to your self-esteem and well-being and the one that needs to be dealt with quickly if you want to start feeling better.

The following story is an example:

A girlfriend of mine goes to her family’s house every Christmas Eve and then has Christmas Day at her house. Her 8 year old son is currently the only child in the family at the moment and her entire family looks forward to his delight and excitement during the holidays.

But, because he is the only child, quite often she finds that everyone else wants to give him the presents he wants most on his list, leaving her to the task of trying to divide what favorite things he will open on Christmas Eve and what he will receive on Christmas Day.

Last year the big gift was going to be the Wii system. His grandmother had managed to get her hands on it (which most people know was almost an impossibility last year) and the rest of the family were thrilled to buy some of the games that went with it.

My friends son had already been told not to expect the game because of its limited availability, so everyone couldn’t wait to see the excitement on his face when he opened it.

Sure enough on Christmas Eve he opens the Wii system and is super excited! He is jumping around eagerly as his father takes the ½ hour it takes to set the whole system up. However, once the game is set up, the adults practically pounce on it, because they too, can’t wait to try it out after hearing so much about it.

So while my friends son got to try it out first the first few minutes - he had a bunch of adults who kept asking him for the controller so they could give it a shot. They playfully argued with each other “No! You have to twist your arm this way to hit it” or “No, you have to step closer to the T.V., ” etc. as they all tried to figure it out.

After about 10 minutes my girlfriend noticed her son had left the room and she went to look for him. She found him sitting quietly in another room by himself playing his regular Nintendo DS game. He wasn’t angry or upset, but just seemed to accept the situation and was keeping himself entertained. She, however, did feel bad because not only was he not able to play his new game, but judging from the laughter inside, she knew he also wasn’t getting his hands back on the game anytime soon. So she went into her pocketbook and pulled out one of the new DS games she was saving to give him Christmas morning. She figured he was being such a good sport and she knew how excited he was going to be about this game as well because he had been asking for it for so long.

Sure enough he was thrilled and couldn’t wait for her to open it. Everything was great until her mother walked in the room and flipped out. “I cannot believe how much you spoil him!“ she fumed. “Here he just got this new game inside that any kid would be thrilled to have and you feel you just have to give him more.“

“But Mom” my girlfriend replied “no one is letting him play it”

“That’s too bad” she said. “He can wait a few minutes while others try it. But no, he comes running to you and you give him whatever he wants.”

“Mom, he didn‘t come running to me, I had to go find him. And he wasn’t complaining at all, which was one of the reasons I gave it to him.”

“Well, that is just ridiculous!” her mother huffed. “I would have never spoiled you or your brother or sister like that. You never received a single gift before Christmas morning when you were kids and we made sure you appreciated every single thing you got. And now here he is, getting such a great gift on Christmas Eve, but that’s not enough, you have to give him more.“

Now my girlfriends’ poor son, who had been sitting there quietly and hadn’t done anything wrong to begin with, voluntarily handed the new game back to his mother. “It’s O.K., Mom. I can wait to play this tomorrow,” which melted my friend’s heart even more - but also made her even angrier with her own mother.

She gave her son the DS game back and told him to go inside and play it. Meanwhile the guilt trip her mother had just given dampened both her and hers sons enjoyment of the rest of the evening.

You see, it is these kinds of guilt trips you need to watch for. When someone tries to make you feel guilty for doing something that goes against their own personal belief system, but that you might feel differently about.

Now I know my girlfriends mother truly had only good intentions when she said what she said. I know it was only her concern for her grandson’s well-being that made her


upset with her daughter. And spoiling children was something she had always been dead set against. But the truth was, no matter how long the two of them could have argued their own point of view, neither was going to be able to make the other understand.

When I got concerned however, was when I saw the guilt my girlfriend was started to put herself through when she started doubting her own decision. She started wondering if maybe she was spoiling her son too much. Maybe the Wii should have been enough on Christmas Eve. Not to mention the guilt her son was feeling because he felt it was somehow his fault that his grandmother was upset -- even though he hadn‘t done anything wrong.

This is the kind of guilt which does not serve your higher good. Guilt that is inflicted by others because it is their way of trying to get you to act the way they want you to act or act the way, they themselves, would act.

And this is fine as long as you recognize it for what it is and do not let yourself carry it around with you.

Understand it is perfectly O.K. to have a difference of opinion but do not condemn yourself for the difference. Do not label yourself “a bad parent” because someone thinks you should do something differently.

So now for the Exercise that you can use. It is quick, simple, and can be surprisingly insightful.

The easiest way to find out if the guilt you are experiencing is “healthy guilt” or “unhealthy guilt” you simply need to ask yourself these two simple questions:

“Does this feeling make me truly want to act in a different way?”
“And will acting in a different way make me feel better?”

For instance, say you feel guilty about neglecting your best friend lately. Ask yourself the above questions. Does this feeling make me truly want to act in a different way? You might find yourself answering “Yes, I do want to call her more and spend more time with her. Will acting a different way make me feel better? You might say “Yes, seeing her more often and reconnecting will make me feel better.“ Than you can realize that this is a “healthy guilt” that is merely a sign post for you to follow and do things better in the future.

However, if you already talk to your friend 5 days a week and she is trying to make you feel bad for not being there all 7 days, you might find yourself answering “No, I think we talk more than enough and it will only make me feel resentful if I have to call her more often.“

These two simple questions can work wonders. I had my girlfriend ask herself these questions regarding the “Christmas incident”.

If she could do the situation over again would she want to act in a different way and would it make her feel better if she had? And her answer was a clear no. She would still want to give her son the gift and it would not have made her feel better if she hadn’t. So it was clearly an “unhealthy guilt” based on someone else’s expectations.

So start using this little exercise as of today. Anytime the feeling of guilt rears its ugly head, ask yourself the questions above and get clearer on any move you should or shouldn’t make. If you feel that you want to do something differently than start doing something differently as of NOW. Do not waste your time or emotion feeling bad that you didn’t do it yesterday. Simply start now. Thank your higher self for the sign post and do what will make you feel better going forward.

And if you find that the guilt is unwarranted then recognize this and throw it away immediately because it obviously serves no purpose to you.

You will be amazed how easy it is to get rid of a guilty feeling when you deal with it head on instead of burying it inside you somewhere.

By asking yourself these questions you will either decide you want to do something about it - or you are happy doing things exactly the way that you are. Either way, the matter is settled and you can move on.

Happy Creating!

June 14, 2008

Stop Putting Off Feeling Good Until Later and Feel Better Now!

I have learned a lot about the Law of Attraction over the years, and one of the most important lessons I learned was one of the hardest for me to put into practice. But once I did learn -- it was a whole new world.

It is the lesson of simply feeling good now regardless of the circumstances. Not waiting until this was done first, or that was accomplished before I would allow myself to feel better.

There is a favorite quote of mine from Abraham-Hicks that simply says “You can never get it wrong and you can never get it done.” At first the last part may seem a little disheartening because unconsciously many of us believe that there is an invisible finish line somewhere, but if you think about it truly you will realize that one doesn’t exist.

Think back if you will and see if this sounds familiar to you.

1. As soon as I am done with high school and become an adult, then I will be happy.
2. As soon as I graduate college and start my new career than I will be happy.
3. As soon as I get that promotion, then I will be happy.
4. As soon as I meet the person of my dreams and get married, then I will be happy.
4. As soon as I own my own home, then I will be happy.
5. As soon as I have 2.5 children, then I will be happy.
6. As soon as my children are old enough to feed and clothe themselves, then I will be happy.
7. As soon as my children are old enough to move out of the house, then I will be happy.
8. As soon as I retire, then I will be happy.

According to the list above we will not allow ourselves to be happy until age 75! Not to mention that the list above is not even half of it. How about all those times you told yourself, as soon as I get that bonus check, lose those 10 extra pounds, get the construction finished on the house, etc.?

The fact of the matter is, we do not ever get it done, and nor are we supposed to. We are creative beings. We are here to create always -- in all ways! If it was “all done” we would have no reason to be here anymore.

So if the above statement is true, there is no sense in putting off happiness until… because there will never be an until. We will always be desiring more.

Now some people might consider this a conundrum. Such as a which is it? Should I just be happy with what I have or should I always strive to create more?


The answer to that is both! Be as happy as you can right now with what you have as well as look with excitement at the more you can create! It is simply a myth that says a happy, content person is an unmotivated one. In fact, if you look around you - you will find the opposite is true.

It is the happy, confident, satisfied people who can make a success of everything they touch. They are the ones with all of the friends and connections! They are the ones that have everything just fall into place almost effortlessly. They are the ones who don’t mind taking a new risk because they are the ones not basing their self worth on the failure or success of that risk. They are the ones who say cheerfully “Oh well, that didn’t work out, I’ll just give something else a shot!”

And this attitude of coarse brings us back to how the Law of Attraction really works. When you are on a positive vibrational level more good things come to you.

So stop waiting to be happy! Write down all the positives in your life right now. Spend your time appreciating every little thing. Start realizing that just because you are happy does not mean that you will not want to accomplish anything more. Realize it is just the opposite. Knowing that you don’t “need” more to be happy takes the pressure off. Knowing that you can be happy regardless of the circumstances makes any “goals” much less intimidating.

So enjoy high school now and appreciate all the new experiences; enjoy college and the fun of learning something new; enjoy your singledom and appreciate the freedom of being able to do whatever you want to do whenever you want, enjoy taking care of the very young ones and appreciate that all they need in this world to be happy is you, enjoy the ones who are growing older now and saying and doing the funniest things, enjoy the current job - do it to the best of your ability and enjoy the company of your coworkers as you work up the corporate ladder. You get the idea. Find all of the positives in every position you find yourself in while striving to create even better experiences.

One day when you look back, you will feel so much satisfaction knowing that you enjoyed every single minute of your journey, that there is not a spare minute for regrets.

Happy Creating!

June 12, 2008

Law of Attraction and Money - What is Your Financial Set Point?

Creating money isn’t difficult. There are literally millions of ways on this Earth to create money, and probably millions more that haven’t even been discovered yet. So why does it seem so many have a problem creating more of it in their lives?

If you have been trying in vain to create more money in your life, but can’t seem to get past a certain point, it is time to figure out exactly what your Financial Set Point is.

A Financial Set Point is a subconscious number (or ceiling) you have set in your mind as the amount of money you deserve or are entitled to and usually can’t get past.

For example, say a person makes about $50,000 a year. He or she has been making this amount for awhile and consider themselves pretty comfortable with it. Without even realizing it, they have made this their financial set point. Then one day they decide they want more than that. But by being unaware of that unconscious ceiling, no matter what they do, they can’t seem to break through that limited amount. So, now they get a new job for $75,000 a year, but suddenly within a few months that job folds, or the roof on their house goes and it costs them exactly $25,000, or they unexpectedly need to buy a new car or one of a million things happen that will somehow cost them that extra amount of money.

Without even realizing it, they are sabotaging themselves to keep ending up back at that $50,000. You will even hear them comment that no matter what they do they can’t ever seem to get anywhere. This is because they have unconsciously set this financial ceiling and the law of attraction being what it is, will ensure that they keep living it out time and time again.

The Law of Attraction is the Universal law that states you will receive what you think about and are focused on. If you are so used to having a certain amount of money and never consciously decide to change that amount in your mind, the Universe will bend over backwards to make sure that your “old” set point keeps being reached.

Think of the many stories you have heard about people who unexpectedly came across a lot of money due to an inheritance, a surprisingly successful endeavor or even the winning of a lottery. Then, in time, you find out that due to bad investments, unexpected expenses, the hiring of unscrupulous people, whatever the case may be -- they ended up back where they started financially. This is no “accident”. Even though they might have had the physical money for awhile, mentally they still considered themselves worth the same “locked in” amount. You can look at the opposite side of this example as well. Take Donald Trump for instance. Here is a man who must have a financial set-point of at least a billion dollars. Because regardless of the rough times he went through, times he was even hundreds of millions of dollars in debt, he managed it turn it all around and brought himself back up to his own financial set point of being a billionaire! In his mind, anything less is unacceptable.


So the question to ask yourself is this; what is your financial set-point? Do you seem to keep ending up with the same amount in your bank account year after year? When you have experienced an unexpected increase in money, has something always happened to bring you back to that mark? Do you constantly focus on your money going out and calculating what you have left as opposed to focusing on more money coming in and your account constantly growing? What is the most you have ever had in your bank account and how long did it last?

Within just a few minutes of analyzing your financial past, it is usually pretty easy to figure out what your own financial set-point is.

So now that you know what your set point is, what do you do?

Well the first thing to do is to decide to consciously change it. Decide what you want your new set point to be and commit yourself to knowing that it has to happen. Imagine it, feel it, write it down. State to the Universe here and now that this is the amount you are now worth! State that “obviously $50,000 doesn’t do it for me anymore – so my new set point is $200,000!” Tape it up somewhere where you can see it every day. Say to yourself everyday “O.K. how am I going to make this $200,000? What if I tried this? What if I tried that? You go to a store and see a scratch- off ticket with $200,000 as the grand prize. That’s the exact number you have been thinking of and it jumps right out at you – so play the dollar to win it.

You have to remember that Universe will happily bring you whatever you want simply because you stated that you wanted it and kept your focus on receiving it. Universe really doesn’t care how much you want or even why. It will just as easily bring you a million dollars as it will bring you a penny. Money is only energy as is everything else and Universe has no preferences as to the amount that you ask for.

So do you want $200,000 or even $20,000,000? Whatever amount you choose is perfect! Now make this your new financial set point and refuse to accept anything less. Mentally act as if this is your new net worth and anything less is not an option. Then keep your eyes open for any and all possible ways Universe is finding to bring it to you. Jump into opportunities that a $50,000 a year set point person wouldn’t attempt, but a $200,000 set point person would do with excitement.

The Law of Attraction is a universal law. It has to do its job – now you just simply do yours and decide exactly what it is you want and allow it to come to you.

Happy Creating!

June 11, 2008

Abraham-Hicks Snippets #1

Hello Everyone! Another great day to give this “life” thing another shot - isn’t it?

Please forgive me for not posting daily lately. I’ve been revamping my website and my newsletter at the same time - so I have fallen a little behind. It will probably take until the end of April to be finished - but after that I should be back to daily posts and anyone who has signed up for the free newsletter should be receiving it around May 1st.

I have just come from the Abraham-Hicks message boards. It is one of my favorite places to visit on the net. It is filled with such inspiration and ideas. Every day people write with questions they have about the Law of Attraction and others respond with some awesome answers. I am not ashamed to say that I use the site quite often for my own inspiration on things to write about or ponder.

Connee Chandler is an awesome “Aber” who really gets it. She has been following Abraham for years and her posts are so unbelievably inspiring! She attends quite a few of their conferences and cruises and then writes an awesome list of highlights that are quick little bits of inspiration.

I figure because they so inspire me they might inspire you as well, so every once in awhile I write a post about them. I have never met or spoken with Connee personally, so this is pure idol worship on my part.

The following snippets came from the most recent Abraham cruise she attended in the Caribbean. As people ask Abraham questions, Connee writes down the most relevant parts of the answers that Abraham gives. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do:

1. Train yourself to see the world through the eyes of connected being. Few do it, but when they do, you call them a master. Only a fraction of the population is living life to the fullest.

2. Your potential is huge! You feel elation in alignment and discouragement in non-alignment.

3. When you have the good fortune of coming into harmony with a connected being, wonderful things can happen to you. If you took all the collective wealth of the world, and divided it fairly among everyone, in 10 years it would be all back where it is now. Everything is about Law of Attraction and which aspects are dominant in your vibration.

4. You've come too far to go back. You can hardly stand not to get the rest of you moving in that direction. As you give more attention to how you feel, you will find a renewed zest for life. You have to consider the Nonphysical vantage point in order to understand how Law of Attraction really works, who you really are and why you have come forth. Ask "What does my Inner Being think about this situation?"


5. Law of Attraction always is responding BOTH to Source Energy thoughts and your thoughts to either cause the feeling of coming together, which is positive emotion, or pulling apart, which is negative emotion.

6. This variety in the levels of connection allows Law of Attraction to bring together people of like vibration. Jerry notices it in businesses - he can feel the reflection of the vision of the core person in a business, because the vibrational lineage flows out through everything and everyone.

7. You have got your foot out of acting from motivation by others, but you don't yet have both feet in acting from inspiration.

8. Begin to expect good things. You will experience synching up with wellbeing and respect; your relationships become fun and harmonious.

9. You can do it relative to friend relationships, and mates but also to world politics. One individual tuned precisely to wellbeing can change the world with a new vision.

10. When someone gets really sick, the eternal, biggest part of them that is
well in vibrational escrow is now weller than ever. To get your attention more
on wellbeing, look at the Big Picture. The sun comes up every morning, the
planet is stable in its orbit. Wellbeing abounds!

11. Try to morph your fear before you act. Talk it into another place. Talk
about the hopeful future, things that have worked in the past.

June 10, 2008

Law of Attraction Manifestation Exercise #9 - List of 100 Things

O.K. So in learning how to use the Law of Attraction you have realized the basics. Think positively - not negatively. Positive brings good results -- negative brings bad. I'm pretty sure we all have that part clear.

So the next question is...How do I think positively when many things in my life are negative right now?

The answer is purposeful mental distraction.

I have written some articles previously about using Mental Distraction but hadn't put them in exercise forms so I will do so now.

It is almost impossible to go from a very negative vibration to a very positive one. It is simply too big a jump. As you have probably also discovered for yourself, it is much harder and it takes a lot longer to accomplish any task you might need to when you are in a negative state as opposed to a strong positive one.

Therefore, it is reasonable to say that it is in your best interest to put yourself in a more positive place mentally before trying to tackle any important task. For the good of you and for the good of the task.

While there are many different ways to accomplish this mental transition, I am going to offer a quick and easy one that you can do in as little as 15 minutes.

You can either grab a pencil or paper or go right to your computer and open a word processing sheet.

The exercise is to write down 100 things that you enjoy doing. That's right enjoy doing. Not a list of what you would like to accomplish in the future (that is another exercise), but simply write down things you have enjoyed in the past and currently.

For instance:

1. Going to your favorite restaurant and enjoying your favorite meal.

2. Having a night to yourself to read a great book

3. A large snowstorm that gives you no choice but to cuddle on the couch and watch television all day.

4. A walk on the beach at sunset.

5. Bowling a great game with your teammates cheering you on

6. Winning even the smallest amount of money in a casino

7. Having a great laugh with your friends

8. Cheering on your favorite sports team when they make an unbelievable play

9. Singing and dancing around the room when no one is watching to your favorite song

10. Spending a solid hour on YouTube watching people do things you would never attempt doing


11. Getting into a warm bed on a cold night.

12. The first night with newly laundered sheets on the bed

13. Enjoying relaxing in a spotlessly clean house

14. The first taste of that hot cup of coffee in the morning

15. The refreshing taste of that tropical drink on the beach, or that cold beer after a hard days physical work

Anyway, you get the gist of it. The point is to write down things that cause you to say "Ummm, yes I do love that."

You will be surprised how much calmer and appreciative you will feel after you have mentally relived this feeling 100 times over in a 15 minute period.

The next steps are to:

1. Save the list so you can go back to it anytime you need a mental boost or when you remember something that you would like to add

2. Pick one or two that you will do in the next few days as a reward to yourself for the tasks you will accomplish today.

If you can't think of 100 things at this moment, even better. Because that means you can spend all your mental time coming up with more. Instead of thinking about upcoming bills on your ride home tonight, come up with more things you love to do. Instead of thinking about being angry at the kids for leaving their jacket in the middle of the floor, come up with more things you love to do.

The most important part of this exercise is not the actual list mind you, but the exercise of consciously redirecting your thoughts to positive things as opposed to negative. Retraining your brain, if you will.

So go now and write your list. Change your negative thoughts and thereby your negative vibrations right now. You might be surprised at the difference in the way that you feel from such a simple process.

Happy Creating!

June 9, 2008

Law of Attraction - Sometimes When Life Gets Too Crazy It is Time To "Just Float"

It's funny how sometimes a line from a movie can stick with you practically forever.

Like "Leave the Gun, Take the Cannoli" from The Godfather. My guy friends have sometimes found the strangest circumstances to pull that line out and while I admit it is usually pretty funny, I would never admit it to them. I usually just give them the old eye roll.

One of my favorite lines from a movie and one that I personally use all the time is "Just Float."

I heard it one of my all time favorite holiday movies Home For The Holidays. A great Thanksgiving movie that makes you feel better knowing that you are not the only one who has to deal with the crazy relatives during the holiday season.

The main character is played by Holly Hunter who is having a really bad week.

She loses her job, stupidly kissed her boss, finds out her teenage daughter is planning on having sex for the first time while she will be away, catches a horrible cold and to top it all off has to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with her off-the-wall parents. It is not one of her better weeks.

Just as she is about to completely lose it, her teenage daughter gives her some advice when dropping her at the airport.


She reminds her mother of when they went on a tropical vacation together and went snorkeling. She tells her mother to remember how calm and peaceful it was when they were just gently floating among the beautiful tropical fish without a care in the world. She told her mother to remember that feeling when the world seems to be going crazy around her. "Just Float, Remember to Just Float."

I have used that line myself ever since. When I've just gotten off the phone with a customer service agent who refuses to hear what I am saying or my young son who is also very good at blocking me out, I say to myself "Just Float" When I am fighting with some mechanical device that refuses to cooperate or can't make head or tails of instructions that are supposed to be "so easy a child could do it" I tell myself to "Just Float".

I truly believe that we aren't meant to paddle furiously all of the time. Sometimes it is our job to "Just Float". To remain calm; to rise to the surface. To quietly observe; to gain back our perspective. To remain unaffected as life's waves move gently beneath us, until we catch our breath; until an easier way is presented to us.

So the next time you find yourself paddling upstream to the point where you want to scream take a deep breath, exhale and "Just Float."

Happy Creating!

June 8, 2008

It Isn't Good - It Isn't Bad - It Just "Is"

Hi Everyone!

Every once in awhile I come across this great message that always makes me just stop and remember. It usually seems to “appear” in a book or on a website if I am in the middle of a emotion I am trying to soothe myself out of . The message is so simple and clear and I know my life would be infinitely more peaceful if I would just remember it more consistently. The message?

“It isn’t good - it isn’t bad --it just IS!”

Anytime we suffer from what we term a “negative” emotion or situation it is simply considered negative due to some past association with it. I’ve use this example before in some of my posts and articles:

If it is raining out -- is it a good or a bad thing?

To a farmer dealing with a drought it is an awesome thing but to a bride on her wedding day -- not so much.

But the rain itself is not good or bad. It simply IS.

Sometimes Universe (or your higher self, if you prefer) has something greater or bigger in store for us that we might not be able to see in the situation right in front of us.

For example: Maybe the rain on a bride’s wedding day slowed down traffic so an accident that would have involved a family member on dry pavement didn’t happen after all. Talk about which scenario the bride would have preferred more!


The point is, by keeping this message in mind it will help take the emotion out of your current situation. It gives you a chance to take a breath and realize that the world or the Universe is not out to get you; it is simply an event that is happening. How you choose to deal with it or think about it next is up to you.

Can you find something positive in it? Find an underlying reason why it might be happening in your best interest? Is there something you can do to turn whatever is happening into a memorable event?

If you are on a first date and there is a blizzard, instead of worrying about the date being ruined can you turn it into the world’s best snowball fight? If you want to take someone out but do not have the money for an expensive dinner, can you create the world’s most romantic picnic on the beach?

So much of our personal pain occurs when we mistakenly believe something should be one way and it turns out another.

It is not the situation itself that is the problem; just our preconceived notion of what we believe it should be like that is the problem.

By remembering that something “Isn’t good or bad, it just simply IS” we can retrain ourselves to stay in the moment. We can act calmly, think clearly and take the next best step without all of our negative emotion screwing it up and making the situation worse.

So keep this message in mind the next time things don’t go the way you think they “should” go. Tell yourself it just simply “Is” and move on calmly from there. You might be surprised how much easier you get through it.

Happy Creating!

June 6, 2008

Manifestation Exercise #8 - Tapping Into Your Higher Self

This exercise is designed to remind you of who you really are. A different kind of meditation technique if you will, to help you get more used to connecting with your Higher Self on a daily basis and to get in touch with the loving, peaceful being that you really are, as opposed to the false identity your ego is trying to convince you that you are. .

It only takes about 5 minutes but the effects can be everlasting.

The first thing you need to do is close your eyes. Now imagine the higher loving part of you takes one giant step backwards out of your body and rises about two feet above you. (as if you were standing at the bottom of a staircase facing forward and there was a person directly on the step above you)

Now envision this absolutely non judgmental being smiles down at the top of your head and puts their hands on your shoulders.

This higher loving self has been with you since the beginning of all time. It absolutely loves you unconditionally. It is never angry with you. It is never critical. It understands every decision you have every made and the reason why you made it.

It laughs at your antics; the funny things you do. It smiles in loving encouragement as you stumble your way through things, having no doubt you will find the solution as soon as you look in the right direction.

This higher being is All That Is. While you may sometimes forget your connection, it never does. It knows every life you have ever lived and every one that you will in the future. It sees the overall picture. While your ego self might not know why you were supposed to meet a particular person today or be in a certain place at a certain time, this higher self knows exactly why. Knows exactly the sequence of events that are going to stem from it that will bring you what you are wanting.

There is nothing for you to ever have to say or do to earn its love and guidance. It is there unconditionally and always. It sees you for the perfection that you are and can be called on at anytime to help remind you of it. It has a greater love for you


than any human on this planet is capable of. It is a love bigger than any parent, child, spouse or partner can give you all combined. You are never alone in this world and will never lack the feeling of being loved when you are reminded that this self is always with you.

Now imagine that this higher being gives your shoulders a gentle loving squeeze before stepping back down and back into your body. A reminder that it is always with you. Within You. It is never floating in the skies above out of reach - never outside of you - but within you always.

Now that it is back inside your body release any other thoughts that might be running through your head and focus on its love. Imagine now that the same being that was behind you a moment ago is now in the back of your head. You can actually feel a tingle when you think about it. It is still smiling, still loving. Always peaceful and calm. You might start to feel the tingle run down the back of your neck or your back as you acknowledge this awesome beings presence. This is you - your true self.

Try this exercise a few times a day the first days that you use it. Eventually you will not need to imagine your higher self stepping in and out. Eventually you will feel the tingle and knowingness in the back of your head always quite naturally.

Eliminate your thoughts and just focus on this loving, all-knowing being back there smiling and encouraging. Silently listen to anything it might tell you. Know it will happily answer all of your questions if you take your ego thoughts away and give it silent space to come in.

Remember that it always sees the bigger picture. It is never worried about silly little things like bills, or work or troubled relationships. It is so big and so knowing that those little things are nothing but a tiny little speck in comparison to how big you really are and this part of you knows it with certainty. It is always peaceful and when you focus on it you can feel the peace and hear the words "That is what you are worried about, you silly thing? We are so much bigger than that."

After awhile you will find that you can call on this feeling at will. The minute any tensions might arise you will learn to immediately go to the back of your head and feel the deep peaceful feeling inside and you too will remember the bigger picture.

Happy Creating!